I’m Just Brain-Storming A Solution. I’ve Got An Idea That May Solve The Issues With Society and LGBT’s. What Do You Think Of This Idea…

Over the course of the past 30+ years I’ve very successfully built 3 companies. A key piece to my success was being able to establish the problem and then create a solution to solve the problem. I’m a very solution oriented person so I thought I might tackle the issue of societies acceptance of LGBT people.

Keep the thought in mind, I’m just simple brainstorming here looking for solutions.

However, I also realize that in order to effectively find the solution you have to be very clear of what the problem is. Because I’m not a LGBT person, my reference simply comes from what I read about it. The good news is I’m like a sponge and soak up a lot of information very quickly.

After the Memories Pizza issue and the Indiana Religious Reform Act and the backlash from both, I sat back and really thought about this problem. You see, I love people. And I really want people to get along. If nothing else, after reading all of this, just keep in mind that at least I’m making an effort to solve this problem so it’s win-win for everyone.

So let’s get to it.

The questions as I see them is, “What is the real issue here? What is societies biggest problem that’s causing the problems, that it is, and what is it that LGBT people really want?” As you can see, there’s two parts to it … LGBT and what they’re after and what societies problem is, why society is having a problem accepting LGBT.

I would believe that we as a nation where diversity is our every day way of life and where we have more freedoms than any other country and where discrimination should never be allowed, nor should people have to walk away from their religious beliefs and values, we can all come up with a positive winning solution.

I know, it’s a tall order. But let’s at least give it a try, shall we?

Keep in mind, I’m just talking out loud and looking for solutions. This is NOT to upset or offend anyone.

Traditional Marriage

Call me old fashion, but I honestly do not understand how marriage can be between two people of the same sex. I believe that this is how so many people view a marriage. Traditional marriage, at its very root, is about propagating. That is the creation of offspring, our children. This is the one thing same sex couples cannot do and therefore, logically, a same sex union can’t be a marriage, unless we change the definition of marriage.

Changing the definition is exactly what the LGBT group have pushed to do. But, by changing the definition it’s affecting so many areas. Sure, it’s also affecting the biblical side of marriage, but it’s also affecting laws and perceptions to it. It’s like trying to say a piano is a weapon.

Ludicrous, isn’t it?

Yet, if you take a piano wire out it can be used as a weapon to kill someone. So which is it, a weapon or a beautiful musical instrument?

That all depends on a persons perception to it just like societies perception to marriage is one man and one woman, with a small group trying to change this perception to include same sex unions.

But as a nation we don’t want to offend anyone, and we want to accept each persons beliefs and lifestyle so long as it doesn’t harm others. This is one of the things that makes America such an awesome place to live.

If I’m not mistaken, in a nutshell, what LGBT’s really want is the same legal benefits that a traditional marriage offers like tax benefits and the rest of the benefits. If you go back to the root of LGBT pushing for marriage, this was the foundation to it … both on the same health insurance policy as a lower cost family policy versus two individual health insurance policies which would cost more, to name one of many things.

It started with health insurance, if my memory serves me, to keep the premiums lower.

Defining The Objective Gays Are Wanting

Personally, I don’t have a problem with LGBT getting the same benefits as a married couple. I don’t think most American’s have a problem with this. Along with this, I think life partners (regardless to sex orientations) who live together should be able to get some of the same benefits as a married couple too like a family health insurance plan.

However, I do have a problem with LGBT unions being referred to as a “marriage” because it’s not a marriage and never can be a marriage by the very definition of what a marriage is, unless the definition gets changed. I believe this is how most American’s look at it, and where the problem lies.

I do believe LGBT should have equal rights. That is NOT the argument here at all. It’s just become very clear to me that the real issue here is referred to it as a “marriage”. That seems to be where the real problem is.

And if LBGT are after equality, what it’s called should NOT be an issue. By giving it its own name will resolve a lot of problems in this country and with society.

Again, I’m just looking for solutions that work for everyone.

Brainstorming Solution

So instead of calling it a “marriage”, which it really isn’t, let’s give it another name and then give LGBT the same benefits as a traditionally married couple. A word to represent your unique relationship and the love shared between the two of you.

Again, keep in mind, I’m just talking out loud here with no desire to offend anyone. I hope you can see my intentions are positive with the goal of making all segments of the country happy.

From the beginning of time marriage has been between a man and a woman. It’s very confusing to children and very difficult for parents to try and explain same sex “marriages” to their children. For one, it goes against everything we’ve all accepted and know about marriage.

It really puts a lot of people in a very awkward place, and I don’t believe that has ever been the intention of LGBT.

LGBT just want equality. They want to be accepted. Or am I missing something here? I certainly could be, and if I am I’m sorry. I’m just trying to create peace and solutions here.

In a same sex marriage there can’t be a husband and a wife, by definition. It’s like we’re trying to change the definitions to words that have been around since the beginning of time.

Same sex couples, to me and the high majority of American’s and people in this world, is not a marriage. For one, they can’t together conceive a child which is foundational to the traditional marriage.

This does not mean we can’t create new words with new definitions to explain same sex unions and then give them the same benefits that a married couple would have.

I believe we can all put our heads together to come up with a name that would be win-win for all.

How about “Life Partners” or “LGBT Union” or something like that?

There are a lot of very intelligent people out there, far smarter than me, that can put their heads together to collectively come up with a term and name for this same sex union that would be acceptable by all.

By doing this it should keep everyone happy and greatly reduce discrimination issues.

I would never want to take away from the LGBT group, which is not my intention here.

I’m just brainstorming a thought.

Plus, I think it would greatly minimize the problems with religions if it was given its own name and we could protect the sanction of marriage as it’s always been from the beginning.

So again, please don’t get mad at me if you’re part of the LGBT group. I’m just looking at solutions with an open discussion here.

Another thing to consider is America was founded on the freedom of religion. It’s ingrained into the very fiber of America and is protected by the 1st Amendment. There is a very large segment of the population that takes their beliefs very seriously, just like LGBT are passionate about their beliefs. The key is to create a solution that allows both to accepted by neither stepping on the others toes.

You’ll also notice that there are a lot of denominations. There’s Methodist, Baptist, Southern Baptist, Mormon, Catholic and numerous more. While they’re all still praying to the same God and most of them even follow the same Bible, they wanted their own identity due to their uniqueness so they gave their religion its own name.

Each denomination has their own uniqueness that separates it from the other identified by their name.

To me it only makes sense to give LGBT their own name for the union of same sex couple and not continue to try and change the definition of Marriage. This would be a whole lot easier approach and would give this group their own identity.

Anyway, these are my thoughts to this problem.

Feel free to share your thoughts below …