The 2 Biggest Complaints People Have With Christians Explained

There are two main things people have a complaint with Christians. I'm going to discuss them and then explain them to put them into the proper perspective.

There are two big complaints some people have with Christians...

1. They think they judge people
2. Trying to force Jesus on people

Let's address both...

"Shall Not Judge"

I agree, nobody should "judge" people. Here's my views to this...

If the Christian is following God's word they're not judging people and are leaving any judgements to God. In Matthew 7:1-5 it says... 

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. ² For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. ³ “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? ⁴ How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? ⁵ You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

God is very clear about our judging others... Don't! And if you do, God will judges us with the same measure we used to judge others.

Period, end of conversation... we are not to judge! It's scripturally commanded, and God tells you the consequences to our judging people.

There's A Big Difference Between "Judging" and "Not Agreeing With Another's Choices"...

However, people make a big mistake by confusing "not judging others" with "not agreeing with another's choices". 

There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with the choices people make or how they choose to live their lives. Many confuse the two.

Sadly, those who want to attack Christianity can't and won't separate the two. They'll continue pushing the narrative that not agreeing with one's lifestyle is judging them. You just have to move on and ignore these people because it's more important to them to attack Christianity and create division, than to unite and understand the differences.

It's like those who are pushing the racism narrative saying, "if you say you're not racist then you're racist". It's a Marxist tactic to force the racism narrative on people. They want everyone to believe we're all racist to divide us. It's all about creating division (or to line their pockets since there are many who are profiting from the racism narrative including many Black pastors).

They use the same tactics against Christians when we don't agree with their life choices and tell us we're "judging" them when in fact we're not. We just simply do not agree with their life choices, nothing more nothing less. 

For example, I'm not gay and I don't agree with this life choice. I also teach my children and grandchildren the biblical views of this. I also teach them to not judge others who are gay. However, regardless to what I may teach them ultimately they'll draw their own conclusions on the topic and create their own beliefs on it.

Bottom line, I don't judge people who are gay because it's their life to live however they choose to live it, and if God has a problem with it this is between the gay person and God, not the gay person and me.

I have a few gay friends including a gay cousin. We each respect the other persons position on this topic and don't try to "force" our beliefs on the other. We just go about business without any thought or concern about the others life choices.

Where it gets ugly and bad is when people try to force their beliefs on others. No, nobody has to accept another persons life choices! Judging their life choice would be attacking them for their life choice. Not accepting it means being kind to the person while not partaking in anything around this life choice. It's common for those who don't support this life choice, using gay as the example, to not go to gay bars or not watch shows with gays in it. 

My close friends knows I'm a Christian and that I believe I'm nothing without my Heavenly Father. They also know I'd never force my beliefs on others because just like God gave us "free will" to live our life however we want to I believe the same thing for people around me. It's your life, live it however you want. Just don't try to force your life choices on me or force me to accept your life choices.

Like I've told my children and those around me, "You live your life however you want, but once your choices affect me then I care, will get involved and will have a say."

I can accept people who have made life choices I don't agree with, work with them, even become a close friend with them like I am with numerous gay people. Most important to me is their heart and in business their ability to do the job. We should all live our lives like this.  

Just be aware, living your life however you want to also means you're 100% accountable for the results and consequences of how you choose to live your life. When you have the freedom to live your life however you want to live it, you're also responsible for the outcome from your actions from your choices. For example, if you decide to be a criminal and do things illegal, when you get caught they're your consequences to face.

I know this was an extreme example, which I did intentionally to make my point very clear.

You do what you believe is best for your life. I also encourage (not demand) you stay open minded to other options. Over my life I've changed my beliefs and views to things many times as I've gained more knowledge on different topics because I've always been open minded and want to learn more.

If my life and my faith in God offends you, maybe you should ask why it offends you. After all, I may be on to something here, but that's for you to determine. But regardless my life choices don't you affect you negatively at all. If anything it's because I'm a Christian that I'm more caring and more willing to help others.

If you don't like my views on something or don't agree with something I believe in, you have the ability to ignore it and continue on with your life. This is how we deal with things we don't agree with.

If you can't work with someone because they're a Christian, that's a whole different topic. But consider this, then why should anyone want to work with you since you don't believe in God and haven't accepted Jesus into your life knowing true Christians live by a higher standard?

It goes both way. But demanding others to agree with your life choices is how we become divided. I don't want us divided. This is why I have the beliefs that I do and live my life the way I do... It's your heart and if we're working together your ability to do the job that matters to me. I don't care about your sexuality, political ideology or your other life choices unless they live on your sleeve and is thrown in everyone faces around you because you demand they agree with your life choices.

Again, nobody is required to accept YOUR life choices or your beliefs, just like nobody is required to accept mine!

Don't confuse "not accepting or agreeing with your life choices" with "judging you". They are very different things.

Forcing Our Beliefs On Others

In every group there's always the extreme. Us Christians call the extreme Christians "Holy Rollers". They're the ones you see on the side of the street with signs about Jesus coming and other sayings. They throw Jesus in everyone's face who walks by them. I admire their love for Jesus, while at the same time knowing all they're doing is giving Christians a bad name and turning people off from wanting to know Jesus!

They're obnoxious and irritating! Even most Christians feel this way.

God does not tell us to force our beliefs on others, to act like a "holy roller". He instead teaches us to act like a Christian as described in the Bible and show people we're Christians "by our love, by our love", as the song goes.

For clarity purposes, in the Bible it also says to turn the other cheek but many people take this out of context. God does not tell us to not defend ourselves, but instead he'll help defend us when we're doing His work. God does not say to be "taken advantage of", or to be a "gluten for punishment". Christians are strong warriors.

Anyway, continuing on, what many don't understand is Love is action word, it's what you do. Even in marriage couples often forget that Love is an action word and it's how you treat and honor your spouse. God has instructions on this too.

You'll also notice the very high majority of charities are Christian based. It's giving back and helping those in need.

We are to allow Jesus to flow in and through our lives, overflowing and pouring into the lives of others for His glory. Here's the key... When others see the evidence, the fruit of the Spirit in us, our lives will make others thirsty for what we have - Jesus!

People want to be on the winning team so like I stated at the beginning, It's not surprising that 90% of successful people have faith in a higher being with most following God.

People who ask me (I don't preach or throw Jesus in people's faces) how I created the successes I have, or how Joy and I have been able to create such an amazing & loving relationship, I tell them it's because of my walk with Christ Jesus and my faith in God and His word. I give Him all of the glory for my many successes over the years. I'm firm in my belief of how important God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are in my personal life.

This was how I chose to live my life. You get to choose how you want to live your life.

The point is, those who are following the Bible (God's words) aren't going to try and force Jesus on you. It's not how we're taught to lead people to Jesus.

There is an exception I need to share. When someone is a new Christian and have accepted Jesus into their heart, they're filled with the Holy Spirit and are overwhelmed with joy and love. It's a feeling I don't know how to explain. It's something you have to experience to understand.

When people are "born again" Christians where their old life dies and they have a renewed life filled with the Holy Spirit they are so excited and so filled with love they want everyone to feel like they do, and to know Jesus like they do so it's not uncommon for many to become over joyed and shout from the tree tops how great Jesus is. It's a phase.

Us older Christians work with them to tame them and show them how to live their new lives as a Christian by teaching them how God wants us to live via the Bible. Everything they need to know on how to live a great life is found in the Bible. In fact, most every book on success is based off of the Bible.

The last thing I want to point out is "Christianity" is a general term. In reality there are many denominations with each having their own spin to being a Christian. I don't belong to any because I don't support "religion". Jesus didn't either. Man created these religions. 

I solely follow the Bible and attend a Bible teaching non-denomination church. However, I was raised in the Methodist Church because this is the church my parents attended. 

The point is, generally it's not all Christians that are the problem but instead a specific denomination who may be teaching a far more abrupt in your face approach to sharing Jesus with others. Thankfully this is by far the minority of the overall Christians globally.

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